Okay so I only became a 'non teenager' less than a year ago and already I could list hundreds of things that I wish I knew when I was growing up. Admittedly I probably did get told these thousands of times by my parents and older relatives and friends but just chose not to listen as I thought they were either being old prudes or just unfair and ridiculous. Obviously I can't list everything that I wish I could tell my younger self or I'd be here forever so here's 10 things that I wish I could go back and drill into my brain!
1. My first thing I'd like to tell my teenage self is probably something most girls will now regret doing to themselves and probably some daring boys too... 'Leave your hair alone'. I cant even count how many times my mum gave me the lecture about my hair. Telling me how I would ruin it, how I would stop it from growing and telling me how bloody ridiculous I looked! Did I listen? Of course I didn't but looking back I so wish I had of. I've dyed my hair a fair few times over the years experimenting with blonde, purple, the dreaded dip dye! I wore extensions for years and had the odd dodgy cut as well! Not only does it look stupid most of the time it completely ruined my hair for years! From the age of around 16 up until I was heavily pregnant my hair just stopped growing! It was so damaged and in such poor condition and it was all my own fault. Now personally I prefer the natural look... I don't dye my hair or wear extensions and instead of investing money into things that damage my hair I invest in things to protect it.
2. Your mum is not a bitch because she won't let your boyfriend of two months sleep over. 'But mum everyone else is allowed to sleepover with their boyfriends' lets face it no they weren't. In fact I think I probably knew one person in the whole of my school year that was allowed their boyfriend to stop over and I now think their parents must of been insane. Not only does it now make me feel physically sick thinking of some of my exes it also makes me feel relieved that I had sensible parents that would of rather walked over burning coal than let me sleep over with these boys! It's not cool to being the school slapper and it certainly isn't cool when you get into a serious relationship and you know everyone that the person has slept with! Calm your teenage hormones down and get the boy to take you to the cinema, there's plenty of time to sleep with each other when you're not taking your GCSEs.
3. Just to add your mum is also not a bitch for not buying you ridiculously strong alcohol when you're 14. Looking back I now think having just a bottle of Blue WKD and being pissed out of my face is quite hilarious but I can't imagine how different things could be if my mum had of actually let me drink vodka and wine. I was taught to drink alcohol in moderation, that you don't have to be hammered to have fun, to know when to stop drinking because I'd had enough and because of this I've always been a very fortune drunk. I've never woken up not knowing where I was, I've never had a one night stand, I've never had a fight or argument when drunk and never gotten into trouble. At the time this pissed me off but now looking back I can honestly say I haven't missed out on anything. It genuinley horrifies me to think of my baby or even my little sister getting stupidly drunk. You're young, make the most of it!
4. PAY ATTENTION AT SCHOOL! I'll be the first person to stand up and say that you do not need millions of qualifications to have a brilliant life but it has certainly helped me getting jobs just by having good grades. It might seem more fun to sit with your friends playing Whack A Mole on your new ipod touch rather than listening to your english teacher or convincing poor Mr Dziendziel that he had to send you home because you've taken your earring out and its slightly bleeding so you now can't concentrate and have to go home immediately (sorry sir)... but honestly looking back I now wish that I'd of just bloody got on with it! It honestly took me to move across the country to realise that lessons aren't for gossiping and playing with your friends hair, they're actually for learning. Shocker. I was predicted pretty much all D's when I was at Portland and within 6 months managed to get ALL of my gcse grades up to A*s-Cs. Because of this I got an unconditional place at college at my first interview and got my first full time job! You're not at school for very long so just suck it up and pay attention!
5. Be nicer to people. I genuinely wish I could take back a lot of my time at school and do it over again. The amount of people I used to sit with my friends and bitch about and make fun of is really not nice. The petty arguments I had with people just for the sake of it and the amount of people I stopped hanging around with because other people thought they were uncool is ridiculous. Rather than being mean to someone to impress your friends, hang around with the people who you never needed to impress because they already knew how fab you were.
6. Spend more time with your parents. Although you might think that going to school for 8 hours a day and finishing at half 3 is tough, just remind yourself that soon you'll either be in education with a job or looking after a baby full time hours away from your parents and you will miss them!!! I now thoroughly enjoy spending time with my mum and wish I'd of made the most of it in the past. They're not going to be around forever so take full advantage of the shopping trips, the walks, the car journeys and the family times at home.
7. Don't waste your life chasing after boys. I myself am very guilty of spending pretty much my entire school experience, thinking about boys, talking about boys, crying over boys and going out with boys. What a waste of 5 years! Okay so the person I've ended up living with and having a baby with was one of my school boyfriends but that is so rare. You more than likely will not spend your life with your school boyfriend so if he wants to cheat on you, be mean to you or be a nob, just wave byebye to that silly teenager and go have some fun with your friends instead! Chances are half the boys you were with at school turn out to be ugly losers anyway so I wouldn't worry too much if they don't fancy you anymore or go after your best mate. You're better than that so let them crack on with it!
8. Take advantage of all the school holidays, teacher training days and snow days because once you're not in school these things no longer exist. Holidays become something you have to work your arse off to get, teacher training days... where are they now? and snow days turn into 'noooo I need the money days!'. So sleep in a little longer, stay out a little later and enjoy being able to do what you want when you want because when you enter the real world these are the things that you miss the most!
9. Don't take everything so seriously. Honestly no matter how bad it seems having to do homework, getting a detention or telling your mum that you've lost your house keys again isn't that big of a deal. Your friend might be a two faced bitch that you never want to talk to again but is copying your New Look crop top and telling people that they look better in it than you really worth causing a world war over? Nope.
10. Last but not least I'd tell myself to love myself more. You are not fat, you are not ugly and your acne will fade. Enjoy being able to fit into size 8 jeans whilst eating 3 McDonalds a week. Enjoy being able to run around a field being silly for hours and not feeling like you're about to have a heart attack but lastly enjoy being yourself!
2. Your mum is not a bitch because she won't let your boyfriend of two months sleep over. 'But mum everyone else is allowed to sleepover with their boyfriends' lets face it no they weren't. In fact I think I probably knew one person in the whole of my school year that was allowed their boyfriend to stop over and I now think their parents must of been insane. Not only does it now make me feel physically sick thinking of some of my exes it also makes me feel relieved that I had sensible parents that would of rather walked over burning coal than let me sleep over with these boys! It's not cool to being the school slapper and it certainly isn't cool when you get into a serious relationship and you know everyone that the person has slept with! Calm your teenage hormones down and get the boy to take you to the cinema, there's plenty of time to sleep with each other when you're not taking your GCSEs.
3. Just to add your mum is also not a bitch for not buying you ridiculously strong alcohol when you're 14. Looking back I now think having just a bottle of Blue WKD and being pissed out of my face is quite hilarious but I can't imagine how different things could be if my mum had of actually let me drink vodka and wine. I was taught to drink alcohol in moderation, that you don't have to be hammered to have fun, to know when to stop drinking because I'd had enough and because of this I've always been a very fortune drunk. I've never woken up not knowing where I was, I've never had a one night stand, I've never had a fight or argument when drunk and never gotten into trouble. At the time this pissed me off but now looking back I can honestly say I haven't missed out on anything. It genuinley horrifies me to think of my baby or even my little sister getting stupidly drunk. You're young, make the most of it!
4. PAY ATTENTION AT SCHOOL! I'll be the first person to stand up and say that you do not need millions of qualifications to have a brilliant life but it has certainly helped me getting jobs just by having good grades. It might seem more fun to sit with your friends playing Whack A Mole on your new ipod touch rather than listening to your english teacher or convincing poor Mr Dziendziel that he had to send you home because you've taken your earring out and its slightly bleeding so you now can't concentrate and have to go home immediately (sorry sir)... but honestly looking back I now wish that I'd of just bloody got on with it! It honestly took me to move across the country to realise that lessons aren't for gossiping and playing with your friends hair, they're actually for learning. Shocker. I was predicted pretty much all D's when I was at Portland and within 6 months managed to get ALL of my gcse grades up to A*s-Cs. Because of this I got an unconditional place at college at my first interview and got my first full time job! You're not at school for very long so just suck it up and pay attention!
5. Be nicer to people. I genuinely wish I could take back a lot of my time at school and do it over again. The amount of people I used to sit with my friends and bitch about and make fun of is really not nice. The petty arguments I had with people just for the sake of it and the amount of people I stopped hanging around with because other people thought they were uncool is ridiculous. Rather than being mean to someone to impress your friends, hang around with the people who you never needed to impress because they already knew how fab you were.
6. Spend more time with your parents. Although you might think that going to school for 8 hours a day and finishing at half 3 is tough, just remind yourself that soon you'll either be in education with a job or looking after a baby full time hours away from your parents and you will miss them!!! I now thoroughly enjoy spending time with my mum and wish I'd of made the most of it in the past. They're not going to be around forever so take full advantage of the shopping trips, the walks, the car journeys and the family times at home.
7. Don't waste your life chasing after boys. I myself am very guilty of spending pretty much my entire school experience, thinking about boys, talking about boys, crying over boys and going out with boys. What a waste of 5 years! Okay so the person I've ended up living with and having a baby with was one of my school boyfriends but that is so rare. You more than likely will not spend your life with your school boyfriend so if he wants to cheat on you, be mean to you or be a nob, just wave byebye to that silly teenager and go have some fun with your friends instead! Chances are half the boys you were with at school turn out to be ugly losers anyway so I wouldn't worry too much if they don't fancy you anymore or go after your best mate. You're better than that so let them crack on with it!
8. Take advantage of all the school holidays, teacher training days and snow days because once you're not in school these things no longer exist. Holidays become something you have to work your arse off to get, teacher training days... where are they now? and snow days turn into 'noooo I need the money days!'. So sleep in a little longer, stay out a little later and enjoy being able to do what you want when you want because when you enter the real world these are the things that you miss the most!
9. Don't take everything so seriously. Honestly no matter how bad it seems having to do homework, getting a detention or telling your mum that you've lost your house keys again isn't that big of a deal. Your friend might be a two faced bitch that you never want to talk to again but is copying your New Look crop top and telling people that they look better in it than you really worth causing a world war over? Nope.
10. Last but not least I'd tell myself to love myself more. You are not fat, you are not ugly and your acne will fade. Enjoy being able to fit into size 8 jeans whilst eating 3 McDonalds a week. Enjoy being able to run around a field being silly for hours and not feeling like you're about to have a heart attack but lastly enjoy being yourself!
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